It’s too funny how Christians break up.  Let’s be honest, it usually sounds like, “I need to pray about us for a while and see if it’s God’s will” or “I think God wants us to see other people”.  Of course, the break up itself is not funny, but how creative us Christians get on breakups, to let them go “easy”.  Like, “Let’s just be worship buddies.”

But what strikes me the most is why they break up.  Many couples I know, both good people, in love with Christ, and deep with their relationship with God, yet they want to “see if it’s God’s will.”  They fast from each other, and of course, end up breaking up.  It breaks my heart, really.  And I just have to ask, what is the reason for it?  They were perfect for each other.

In my opinion, there are two reasons for this:

1.  They were looking for that “perfect relationship”.

We get this mind set to where, “If you ain’t no Corinthians 13:4-8, you ain’t the one!”   But we aren’t perfect.  Yes, if you’re mind set is to become more of what love is, then maybe talk to that person what your trying to do.  But it shouldn’t be completely breaking up with that person.  Communication needs to be big in your relationship!  God made Eve out of Adam’s rib because that was His plan for marriage.  Side-by-side, close to each other’s heart, a perfect match.  But then there was The Fall and prevented us from being able to have a ‘perfect relationship’.  I’m sorry, you’re going to have problems and issues in your relationship, but together, you both work it out, help each other overcome obstacles.  That’s the cool part, God puts you with that person that can help you overcome those kinds of things, and the same from you to that person.  He purposely will put you with a person that might be weak in a part you are strong in and you weak in a part that person is more strong in.  He wants you to work together and overcome stronger and help each other with your weaknesses.

2.  They rushed into it and wasn’t ready to start a relationship.

Yes, especially those church camps, there will be cute christian boys.  But the first one you talk/see doesn’t mean it’s “God’s will”.  Before we rush into a relationship, think of it as a big deal.  You are basically saying, “I’m getting to know you a little more until we are old enough or allowed to get married.”  This person will be the mother or father of your children, your singing/preaching/traveling buddy (whatever God has you do), and your roommate for life… this is a big deal!  Before rushing into that relationship, see what that person’s mission for the future is, what has God called that person to do.  Will that work with what you are called to do?  Just have a talk before you rush into things about what your plans are and your standards are.  And even seek godly guidance from older, more experienced people. There are a lot of handsome/beautiful christian people out there, but God has that certain person He made just for you.  So it would be better to just be patient.  Also, when you are seeing someone, pray about it.  Yes, this is the time you fast about your man or women.

“…Do not arose or awaken love until it so desires.” -Song of Songs 2:7

This verse is in there more than once.  What does that mean?  God wants you to be patient.  Yes, he/she is a christian and really cute, but really just take time before you rush into it.

I hate to see two Godly people look at each other in disgust after a nasty break up. This post really just turned into ways to prevent that (wasn’t planned but you know how it is).  God’s plan is to love one another, so let’s be smart.  Take it slow, don’t rush it.  You don’t want neither yourself nor the other person getting hurt.  God bless, family!